Think of it as an opportunity
Communicate and set boundaries
While it’s important to let go at various points as you watch your kids grow, your kids’ safety is obviously your top priority in being a parent. While they may have their license, they probably don’t have the money for a car, and you’re the person who will ultimately decide whether or not they’re okay to drive. Finding a DUI lawyer probably isn’t in your calendar for the year ahead, so don’t be afraid to set strict rules if you’re afraid your teen isn’t going to be responsible with their car! Communicate clearly with them, and be direct about their responsibilities, and what you expect of them. Let them use your car, but ask them to text you as soon as they arrive at their destination, and keep a cap on the number of friends they’re driving around. It they fail to meet those standards, don’t let them have the car the next time they ask – no ifs, no buts.
Get them to drive you
Naturally, you’ll want to keep tabs on how your teenager is driving, but you won’t want to stifle their independence. One of the best ways of finding a middle ground is calling shotgun when your kid grabs the keys and heads out the front door. You’re going to want to give advice and point out hazards, but try to keep as quiet as possible. After all, they’ve legally passed their test. Still, keep mental notes on any dangerous habits you notice in them. Once you get to your destination, give them a little ego boost. Tell them their driving was great, and add in a dash of constructive feedback. The more rides you take, the more they’ll open up to your non-distracting tips.
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